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“As I Come Clean”

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“As I Come Clean” – Pearl Jam

“Just Breathe”
Released October 31, 2009
Pearl Jam

“As I Come Clean” – Pearl Jam – Note

… Dear Me …

… “as I come clean” …

… I lost a great friend the other day …

… (same way when Jeremy Spoke In Class Today) …

… on one hand, I feel like writing to him …

… but on the other hand, I cannot …

… so I am not quite sure as to how to do this …

… I want to tell everyone that he is no longer here …

… but then again I do not…

… I want to tell everyone how I feel …

… but I don’t know how I feel …

… I want to tell everyone what he meant to me …

… but I haven’t come to terms with that …

… I want to hug his wife and somehow ensure her she will be okay …

… but I am helpless with that endeavor …

… So I guess I will just breathe today …

… I do not know what I will do tomorrow …

… But I will be back …

… Peace …

… Love love love, etc. …

“Just Breathe” – Live At Austin City Limits – Pearl Jam

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Yes I understand
That every life must end
As we sit alone
I know someday we must go

Yeah I’m a lucky man
To count on both hands
The ones I love
Some folks just have one
Yeah others they got none

Stay with me
Let’s just breathe

Practised on our sins
Never gonna let me win
Under everything
Just another human being

I don’t want to hurt
There’s so much in this world
To make me believe

Stay with me
All I see

Did I say that I need you?
Did I say that I want you?
What if I did and I’m a fool you see
No one knows this more than me
‘Cause I come clean

I wonder everyday
As I look upon your face
Everything you gave
And nothing you would take
Nothing you would take
Everything you gave

Did I say that I need you?
Did I say that I want you?
What if I did and I’m a fool you see
No one knows this more than me
I come clean

Nothing you would take
Everything you gave
Hold me ’till I die
Meet you on the other side


John B. Whalen, Jr., JD., LL.M., is an AV Peer Review Rated Preeminent 5.0 and Avvo Rated 10.0 Superb (obtaining over 95 client reviews and peer endorsements) premier and prestigious Attorney and Counselor at Law. He is located at 1199 Heyward Road Wayne Pa 19087. He serves all surrounding counties, on all 7 days, from 9:00 AM to 10:00 PM, and on evenings, weekends, and holidays. He provides free initial consults all seven days, provides home visits, and provides flat fee structures. He can be reached by email at jw60297@me.com, and by telephone at 1-610-407-0220. He has amassed over 60 prestigious and premier professional awards and over 5000 client reviews and endorsements.

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Filed Under: Wayne Pa Ps - Lucid IntervalsTagged With: Wayne Ps - File Suicides, Wayne Ps - File Videos, Wayne Ps - Musicians, Wayne Ps - Pearl JamJune 23, 2020

“Seamstress For The Band”

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On Inspiration – Tiny Dancer

“Tiny Dancer”
Released 1971
Music By Elton John/Lyrics by Bernie Taupin

On Inspiration – Tiny Dancer – Lyrics

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The song’s lyrics were written by Bernie Taupin to capture the spirit of California in 1970 encapsulated by the many beautiful women he met there

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Filed Under: Wayne Pa Ps - Lucid IntervalsTagged With: Wayne Ps - Elton John, Wayne Ps - MusiciansJune 22, 2020

You Feckless Thug

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“You Feckless Thug” – Bio

John B. Whalen, Jr.
Born July 14, 1962
Human Being

“You Feckless Thug” – Note

… In a previous post, I stated that I had recently lost a great friend …

… I also stated that I have yet to figure out my feelings on this …

… I stated that I also don’t know what I would do tomorrow …

… And now that tomorrow will come and then be gone …

… I still don’t know …

… But I will be back …

… Peace …

… Love love love, etc. …

“You Feckless Thug” – Video

West Wing
American Serial Political Drama Television Series
Began September 22, 1999 – Ended May 14, 2006

“You Feckless Thug” – Speech

You’re a son of a bitch, You know that?

She bought her first new car and You hit her with a drunk driver.

What?

Was that supposed to be funny?

You can’t conceive, nor can I, the appalling strangeness of the mercy of God,” says Graham Greene.

I don’t know whose ass he was kissing there, ’cause I think you’re just vindictive.

What was Josh Lyman – a warning shot?

That was my son.

What did I ever do to Yours but praise His glory and praise His Name?

There’s a tropical storm that’s gaining speed and power.

They say we haven’t had a storm this bad since You took out that tender ship of mine in the North Atlantic last year.

Sixty-eight crew.

You know what a tender ship does? Fixes the other ships.

It doesn’t even carry guns. It just goes around, fixes the other ships and delivers the mail. That’s all it can do.

Gratias tibi ago, Domine.

[Thank You, Lord]

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Yes, I lied. It was a sin. I’ve committed many sins. Have I displeased You, You feckless thug?

3.8 million new jobs, that wasn’t good?

Bailed out Mexico. Increased foreign trade. Thirty million new acres of land for conservation. Put Mendoza on the bench. We’re not fighting a war. I’ve raised three children.

That’s not enough to buy me out of the doghouse?

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Haec credam a Deo pio, a Deo iusto, a Deo scito? Cruciatus in crucem. Trus in terra servus, nuntius fui, officium perfeci. Cruciatus in crucem. Eas in crucem.

[Am I really to believe that these are the actions of a loving God? A just God? A wise God? To Hell with Your punishments. I was Your servant here on Earth. I spread Your word and did Your work. To Hell with Your punishments. To Hell with You!]

John B. Whalen, Jr., JD., LL.M., is an AV Peer Review Rated Preeminent 5.0 and Avvo Rated 10.0 Superb premier and prestigious Attorney and Counselor at Law. He is featured on Avvo, Justia, Lawyers, LinkedIn, Martindale, Nolo, Thumbtack. He has amassed over 70 prestigious professional awards and over 5000 client reviews and endorsements. His main office is located at 1199 Heyward Road, Wayne, PA, 19087, and he serves all surrounding counties, on all 7 days, from 9:00 AM to 10:00 PM, and on evenings, weekends, and holidays. He can be reached by email at jw60297@me.com, and by telephone at 1-610-407-0220.

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Filed Under: Wayne Pa Ps - Lucid IntervalsTagged With: Wayne Ps - Actors, Wayne Ps - File Personal, Wayne Ps - File VideosFebruary 28, 2020

“Wear Sunscreen”

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“Wear Sunscreen” – Bio

Mark Anthony “Baz” Luhrmann
Born September 17, 1962
Australian film director, screenwriter and producer

“Wear Sunscreen” – Intro

If I could offer you only one tip for the future, sunscreen would be it

The long term benefits of sunscreen have been proved by scientists whereas the rest of my advice has no basis more reliable than my own meandering experience

I will dispense this advice now

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“Wear Sunscreen” – Background

“Wear Sunscreen” or “Sunscreen” are the common names of an article titled “Advice, like youth, probably just wasted on the young” written by Mary Schmich and published in the Chicago Tribune as a column in 1997, but often erroneously attributed to a commencement speech by author Kurt Vonnegut.

Both its subject and tone are similar to the 1927 poem “Desiderata”.

The most popular and well-known form of the essay is the successful music single “Everybody’s Free (To Wear Sunscreen)”, released in 1999, by Baz Luhrmann.

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Filed Under: Wayne Pa Ps - Lucid IntervalsTagged With: Wayne Ps - File Videos, Wayne Ps - WritersSeptember 28, 2019

“Maria’s Share”

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“Maria’s Share” – Note

… My mother, Noreen A. Whalen, passed away on December 20, 2011 …
… I can write that date without a blink of an eye or a second thought …
… I just can’t write anything further about my mom …

… My father, John B. Whalen, passed away on January 23, 2004 …
… I can write that date without a blink of an eye or a second thought …
… I just can’t write anything further about my dad …

… In my line of work, I deal with loss and dying and death on a daily basis …

… People deal and cope with loss and dying and death in different – and their own ways …

… Some write about it …

… Some think about it …

… Some bury it …

… Some ignore it …

… However …

… “it” never goes away …

… “it” never gets easier …

… “it” is always there …

… And your life is changed forever …

… This post is not about me …

… This post is from a very good friend of mine (Maria), who did write about her experience with loss and dying and death …

… Fortunately – and as always (at least for me and I hope for her, as well as you also) it has helped me beyond ways Maria can or will ever understand (just as I will never understand how Maria feels) …

… As usual, I hope you enjoy it as much as I have …

“Maria’s Share” – Message

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I’m about to share a very personal and emotional personal experience in the hopes of eliciting some deep reflection on a difficult and contentious topic.

The death of Phillip Seymour Hoffman rings so close to home for me of a past that to this day haunts me.

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There have been many to die before him of a drug overdose but for some reason his story has churned up a plethora of emotions.

You see I am my mother’s daughter and SHE was a rescuer. She began her nursing career as a Psychiatric hospital nurse and then became the Director of a drug treatment center.

I too am a rescuer – a rescuer of animals of all kinds including the human animal. My mother taught me to value every living thing and to understand that none are perfect. We all have demons.

I began rescuing at a very early age. Whether it was to rescue my neighbors dog from an isolated life in a laundry room or my first cat Samantha, who followed me home one dad and I had to keep her, or whether it was my first long and very complicated relationship.

You see that relationship was with a heroin addict, one much older than me, but a life disrupted that I thought I could save. I could not.

His demons were much too dark for a teenager, albeit I was a different type of teenager than your average one, but still the possessive nature of addiction was more than I was ready to tackle at the time.

I had known [him] for years before a relationship formed and was there to help him when his own mother finally took her own life (after threatening to do so many times before). This was really when our relationship grew stronger.

It was a very controversial and difficult relationship for my family to understand.

I knew that, but the bond between us was very strong.

He was – for me – a soulmate.

He was more intelligent than most knew and I – to this day still – have scribblings that he wrote about how things in society should change, and how very much he hated the addict that he was.

These were notes for him not meant for others to read and I found them in his belongings and I have had them tucked away for almost 30 years, after three very long and tumultuous years in a relationship that was understood by very few.

I found him lifeless on the floor of the apartment where he lived. It is a day, a scene and a smell that is burned into my memory for eternity.

It was about 7:30 in the morning and I was stopping by on my way to work to give him some presents I bought him for his birthday. I knocked on the door and got no answer.

He knew I was coming and my first feeling was that of anger. You see, this was an all too familiar thing to have him not be where he was supposed to be or doing the things he was supposed to do. Addicts are not all that reliable.

I peeked in the window and could see him lying on the floor with his back to the door – not that strange really – there were 3 people living in this one bedroom apartment, so often times one would sleep on the floor. I knocked again louder this time and nothing, so I tried the door and it opened.

I went in laid down next to him and put my arm around him. That was the moment I realized something was dreadfully wrong.

There was an odor, an odor I will never forget, one of death.

I quickly sat up and turned him over and he was blue and sputum streamed out of his mouth.

I shook him harder than I had ever shaken anything in my 18 years.

I knew he was gone.

My life changed immeasurably that day.

But it has helped sculpt me into the person I am today.

Oddly my family Doctor wanted to prescribe Valium for me to “help” me deal with the situation. I refused. Even my family wanted me to take them. I would put it in my mouth and pretend to swallow it and get rid of it.

Why are doctors so quick to prescribe drugs to help people deal with trauma? That masks the underlying issue – it doesn’t heal it.

I had never done a drug to that point and had no intention of trying to “fix’ the traumatic events with the very thing that had caused it. I prefer to simply face things head on and deal with the root of the problem instead of bandaging it in the hopes that it will simply go away.

I continue to be a rescuer, which is a continuous source of angst, disappointment, and heartache.

I worked at the drug treatment Center with my mother for 7 years and I became callused and angry with many of the addicts because too many of them seemed to be happy with their lives and “playing” the system.

I too must remind myself that addiction is more than just a weak person’s disease and that for many it is desperate attempt to shield oneself from pain and it sickeningly encompasses and destroys the soul to which it has attached it’s tentacles.

Below are some very poignant points about addiction from an article I just read in regards to Phillip Seymour Hoffman’s death.

I must say it relates to many addicts but not all, some simply do not want to change and others are desperate to find a way out of the living hell they have created in an attempt to find euphoria.

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At any rate some food for thought:

Addicts don’t want to be addicts.

Addicts don’t want to die.

Addicts don’t want to throw their lives away.

Addicts don’t want their children to grow up without parents.

They just want to feel better. They just want to feel normal. They just want to stop feeling everything else for a little while.

Addicts are people, just like you and me.

Addicts come in all forms, dependent on many different things, drugs just being one version of dependence.

The problem is that our system is limited, laboring under the illusion that drug addiction is a criminal issue, a medical issue on the fringes that can be fixed with proper rehab. That all ignores the fact that drugs aren’t the problem…what led that person to drugs in the first place is the problem. The drugs are just a means to an end.

Rehab doesn’t fix addicts. It primarily treats the physical symptoms of withdrawal.

Prison doesn’t fix addicts. It just puts them in a cage for a while.

Even death doesn’t fix addicts. It just leaves the people who love them here, forever wondering how different things might have been.

The only way to really deal with addiction is one that is multi-faceted, one that makes us uncomfortable. It is messy and complicated and takes a lifetime of effort. It sometimes involves relapses and second chances and third chances. It involves support, sometimes sponsors. It involves therapy and counseling until whatever the root cause is has been revealed and addressed. It involves consideration of not just the physical withdrawal, but also the emotional withdrawal, the social withdrawal, the psychological withdrawal. It requires a mental health system with adequate resources, which clearly doesn’t exist. It requires us to do better. It requires support instead of judgment.

And sometimes, even when all those things exist, it fails. It fails because addiction can take people and swallow them whole. It can rob them of everything they value, everyone they love. It can strip them of everything they care about, rob them of reason and logic. It can convince them that they aren’t worthy, that they have failed not just themselves, but everyone else. It tells them that they are broken and irreparable. Then it shoves them back down and does it again.

… Thank you very much, Maria …

Note: Italicized thoughts courtesy of DeBie Hive: Addiction, Mental Health and a Society That Fails To Understand Either

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John B. Whalen, Jr., JD., LL.M., is an AV Peer Review Rated Preeminent 5.0 and Avvo Rated 10.0 Superb (obtaining over 95 client reviews and peer endorsements) premier and prestigious Attorney and Counselor at Law. He is featured on Martindale.com, Nolo.com, Avvo.com, Lawyers.com, Justia.com, Lawyers of Distinction, and Linkedin. He has amassed over 60 prestigious professional awards and over 5000 client reviews and endorsements. He provides free initial consultations all seven days, provides home visits, a provides flat fee client structures. He can be reached by email at jw60297@me.com, and by telephone at 1-610-407-0220. He serves all surrounding counties, on all 7 days, from 9:00 AM to 10:00 PM, and on evenings, weekends, and holidays. His main office is located at 1199 Heyward Road Wayne Pa 19087. Mr. Whalen serves, and has served, both individuals and attorneys in the Southeastern Pennsylvania Metropolitan Area (and throughout the country), including Chester County Pa, Delaware County Pa, Lancaster County Pa, Montgomery County Pa, and Philadelphia County Pa. He has served clients in Ambler Pa, in Ardmore Pa, in Aston Pa, in Berwyn Pa, in Blue Bell Pa, in Bridgeport Pa, in Broomall Pa, in Bryn Mawr Pa, in Chadds Ford Pa, in Chesterbrook Pa, in Chester Heights Pa, in Chester Springs Pa, in Coatesville Pa, in Collegeville Pa, in Conshohocken Pa, in Devon Pa, in Downingtown Pa, in Drexel Hill Pa, in Eagleville Pa, in Easttown Pa, in Elkins Park Pa, in Exton Pa, in Frazer Pa, in Great Valley Pa, in Haverford Pa, in Havertown Pa, in Jeffersonville Pa, in Kennett Square Pa, in King of Prussia Pa, in Lansdale Pa, in Limerick Pa, in Linfield Pa, in Linwood Pa, in Lower Merion Pa, in Malvern Pa, in Media Pa, in Narberth Pa, in Newtown Square Pa, in Norristown Pa, in Oaks Pa, in Overbrook Pa, in Paoli Pa, in Parkesburg Pa, in Phoenixville Pa, in Plymouth Meeting Pa, in Pottstown Pa, in Radnor Pa, in Ridley Park Pa, in Rosemont Pa, in St. Davids Pa, in Springfield Pa, in Strafford Pa, in Swarthmore Pa, in Thorndale Pa, in Tredyffrin Pa, in Trooper Pa, in Upper Merion Pa, in Valley Forge Pa, in Villanova Pa, in Wayne Pa, in West Chester Pa, in Westtown Pa, in Whitemarsh Pa, in Willistown Pa, in Wynnewood Pa, and in Yeadon Pa.